What's wrong with growing up?

　　I'm writing this to encourage a friend. We have different views on growing up. One saying is "When things are tough, change is necessary; when things are easy, they last." My friend, however, always wants to wait and see. He says what he has now is hard-won, but he also wants change.
　　Don't be afraid of growing up. Engaging with yourself in a more mature way is more reliable than vaguely trusting your feelings.
　　Because I spent a lot of time alone growing up, I often have self-dialogues, mostly using role-playing to satisfy emotional and developmental needs. My writing
　　often uses "you" and "me," which is essentially a dialogue between the superego and the ego—very serious, like Tang Sanzang reprimanding Sun Wukong. At this stage, I often relapse after self-admonishment, which is perfectly normal. If Sun Wukong wasn't impulsive, would he need the golden headband?
　　Don't expect a child to always keep their word; it goes against the laws of nature. Lao Tzu said, "When you have achieved success and fame, retire gracefully—that is the way of Heaven." If the superego agrees, the ego has no opportunity to put it into practice. Moreover, the superego will make many demands; life is long, and these abstract concepts are constantly at work.
　　Focusing solely on whether something has been done, assuming everything is tangible and visible, is a very limited perspective.
　　Constant nagging is meaningless to me now. With my superego stabilized, a reference point for equal communication can help me accomplish tasks.
　　I've set this reference point as male; I believe androgyny is more complete, and I'm somewhat averse to women with feminine cultural symbols and men with masculine cultural symbols.
　　Having a reference point allows for objectivity, provides self-support, prevents me from succumbing to emotions, and helps me become more mature and act normally.
　　Regarding whether to make changes, after discussion, the conclusion is that actions shouldn't be based on personal preference, but on need and trends—I'll do what I need to do, and then like what I want to do.
　　A friend said: "Growing up isn't a good thing. I don't want things to be too complicated. I'm already fine; I don't want to change.
　　" I'm not forcing anyone. My choice regarding change is that growing up isn't bad; embracing change is how I maintain my inner order.
　　Wanting to slow down, or like some people, rejecting change, is also about maintaining inner order. The source of this order is that the demands of the superego have transformed into the demands of the ego over time—that's the meaning of growth. I forbid myself from refusing or fearing change. You might forbid yourself from acting rashly, and some people might forbid themselves from venturing into the unknown. That's the meaning of growing up.
　　Today, I'm saying to pay attention to the way you engage in self-dialogue, because the thoughts you plant will one day bear fruit.
　　My attitude and methods may not suit my friend's system, but I'm just a reference for him; how he actually does it is up to him to consider.